Washing-Induced Hysteria - Wednesday's 'Real' Read.

Love, love, love this very real snapshot into the life of living with hubby!!!. 

Laugh and enjoy as Naomi shares a moment of her day with us that, let's face it, we all can relate - right from the bottom of our inner talk :).

Whether this is your hubby, house mate, kids, or even yourself check it:

What my husband likes

• Coke, cycling and sci-fi
• Playing with the kids
• Stripping off in random locations around the house, leaving his clothes in an inside out puddle.
• And flinging dirty socks from the bedroom into the hallway. (Where he will no longer be aware of their presence, no matter how many times he walks past them.)

Me?  I have been known to occasionally seethe at the mere sight of his strewn dirty clothes. The energy that courses through my body and the thoughts that charge my through my head is impressive.

He?  Doesn’t seem to appreciate my passion for the topic of dirty clothes in the hallway.

One day

I picked up the pile with an almighty sigh and stomped self-righteously to the laundry.
Sweetly, I brought the issue to his attention.
He blinked and stared and nodded, surprisingly unmoved.
And then...
Everything unravelled............................

Really?

All this tension and drama and fuss over some stray laundry?
When did I become this worked-up banshee of a wife?
You know, I figured, maybe I could just pick up his clothes and not even think about it. Be grateful that he has clothes (!) and I have a husband and a hallway to put him in. Ahh, the clothes in.
Maybe, for the rest of our married life, he’ll be a clothes flinger, a random stripper leaving trails of laundry in his wake.
And I? I think, for him, I can pick them up, walk 20m, put them in the laundry and be thankful for a husband who rocks and a home that exudes an ethereal sense of calm and tranquillity :)
Now, my head hurts less and my husband looks hotter in general when I see him.

#how I used inner self talk to farewell washing-induced hysteria.

Check out Naomi's Blog: http://inkcrush.blogspot.com/

Naomi: Girl. 30 (!) Loves all things inky: reading and writing and especially the goodness that is YA. I live @ Coffs Harbour, Australia.

Share with us below what 'housework' moments can get the better of you???

Death and Taxes - Wednesday's 'Real' Read

Life happens to us all. Below Flip, shares her story of what to do when the little things of life push us over the edge inside - check it:

There is a saying that there are two things in life that are guaranteed. Death and Taxes! But this is not true, especially if you live in my house.

There are many guarantees in life and one of them for me is good ole vomit! 

Yep vomit!

In the last 24 hours in our house we have faced this very inevitable and yet disgusting part of life that I would think very few of us have never experienced. (If you are one of the blessed ones to have never had this aliment, please let me know because that achievement is up there with winning lotto!!)

Now the poor afflicted soul is and has been my dear 5 year old, Abbi. She has suffered like no other human being has suffered – so she is willing to tell me every 5 minutes!!! 

Now, it’s not a nice time when one of you children are sick and they can't help it but there is still this little part of me that just wants to say....stop it!! I mean really I don’t need this now, I’m busy, be quiet, I know your sick but can you suffer in silence...please!!!

Of course being such a self controlled kind of person I would never do this... but sigh.

It’s another guarantee: Our self talk meeting the situation.

Now, being the carer, all sorts of not very caring things pass through my mind and make me not want to be very positive or maternal, especially at 3am. 

Abbi is sitting upright beside my bed, holding an empty ice cream chuck up container, saying every 30 seconds “I'm sick, I'm sick, help”. All I want to do is moan and say "go to sleep, I'm tired, don't you realise I'm old and I need more sleep than you!!!”

But then I started thinking what if Abbi was me and I was the one who needed the care, love and attention. 

Of course I would want my mum to be there with me, holding the bucket, pulling the hair away from my face as I was chucking up, bringing me water and telling me that is would be okay and asking Jesus to make me all better. That’s what I would want, would need, some love. 

So, I gave myself a quick slap upside the head (metaphorically speaking), reign in the self talk, and kick into 'the best mother in the world' mode, even if my head was still thinking...I'm tired. 

You see no matter how I feel and no matter what my self talk is, the situation requires a guaranteed ‘I have to act’.

With God it's the same.

Life happens and sometimes we need real help, or we get ourselves into a pickle and cry out... “I'm hurt and I can't get up, I'm very sad, I'm more in need than anyone else right now!!” “HELP!!” 

The need is genuine because we are not perfect and we all need help in life at times and we want God to act!!!

Lucky for us God does not struggle with the self talk thing like we do. Complaining about being tired or just wanting us to shut up for 5 mins so He can sleep is not even a thought, He is not wired that way at all and thank goodness for us that He isn't. 

Our guarantee with God is that when He meets our situation He acts. 

He is always there to listen, hear our call, our silent prayer. He loves us,wants to look after us, and guide us, even if we don’t know it, feel it, see it or understand it. 

Read Luke 18. Here, Jesus is walking to Jericho and crowds of people are around him and a blind man is sitting on the road begging. He asks what is going on and the people tell him that Jesus is going past. So he calls out to Jesus, for help but the crowd shushed him, still he cries out even more “Jesus have mercy on me” – al la ‘help’. Jesus heard him and asked him “what is it that you want from me?” (Sounds like what I say to my kids all the time) The blind man said, 'I want to see!' Jesus replied by healing him of his blindness. The blind now ‘sighted’ man glorified God and became His follower, why? Because it was all about love. Love made a difference.

How encouraging, Jesus did not falter, did not question His readiness to help someone in need, he just ‘did’. He did out of love. 

So when the issue of life, even vomit, get the better of us, know that God is with us and we can ask for Help when we need it. 

And, when we collide with being ‘guaranteed’ needed, we can choose to act out of love like Him, even with our less than perfect self talk, even when it’s hard.

It's a guarantee that acts of Love make a difference. 

Flip Glasby is a mum of two gorgeous children, works part time, and loves to laugh. She is passionate about great friendships, is renovating her house and loves her spunk of a husband.

Share with us here at Fradaz, what guarantee's you have found in life....

Why me?

So I am having one of those days, where I catch myself in the mirror while getting dressed for a second too long.  Of course I notice the things about my body that I just can’t stand (groan) – don’t ya just hate that moment. 
It is the moment that catches you off guard and you find yourself cringing at life’s little treats.  Here I am looking at those  stretch marks on my stretch marks ( 2 babies has totally ruined my bikini body :(  ), then a bit of  depression, some sorrow and wishing it was not so consumes me for a minute. ‘Why me’ is all I think.


Let’s face it we all have ‘why me’ moments. Why me moments can last for a brief second, to others that are long seasons, and then there’s everything in between. If we are real, we know that they do range from our physical looks to crazy everyday circumstances, to life’s big heartbreaking and challenging times.  
The fact is, as women, we really care about what we look like, what we are doing in life and we all face the unexpected. 
Why me is a valid question because we all want our life to be great, we all want to look hot, and we all want to succeed.


I absolutely believe that as women we are born for such a time as this (heard that before??).  The saying comes from the book of Esther in the Bible. 
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Esther+1&version=AMP


It is encouraging because it champions us to rise up and becoming visible in our life and time, to be the difference for others. 
The problem is: how do we do this while facing our physical imperfections, our struggles, our circumstances, our heartbreaks?  How are we meant to be visible when we feel like shrinking away? 


TRUTH MOMENT: We have to chose to let our ‘why me’ moments become our ‘yes me’ moments.


This crazy world needs people to be visible. We are here to do/ give/help/change/be an answer for others through our love of God.  If we listen and give into our why me’s, (and we all have them, even that perfect, no cellulite girl over there ;) ), then we just won’t do anything - our dream/passion/goals - no matter our intent. We have to be visible through and with our why me moment by changing our thinking to yes me =  Yes me and my imperfections, yes me in my mistakes, yes me in my heartbreak. Yes me! Yes me gives us a reason and power to act. Yes me grabs our intent and makes it become real.


Esther came to this realization, lived it and now encourages us to do the same.
Now personally, I do have a love/hate relationship with this girl :). I mean she was obviously hot, crowned a queen and had every resource she could ever want at her finger tips. It’s not like she had a why me moment = wrong! 
Pause and think a minute on where she came from, how she had to change, who she had to stand against, how she had to face death, the real risks for being a women in her day.  


Just like our world today, her's was not easy either. Yet she chose to be a yes girl! She got up and acted and was the difference to others. She risked being visible, her status, looking and sounding silly, oh just her life, and yet because she did she ended up changing history and making a difference to a lot of people.


You are really born for such a time as this. Our time is real, our time is to be a yes me girl. Yes me today!


Thought:


What ‘intent’ (dream) do you hold in your heart that you wish you could do?


What is the first thing or one thing you can do today as a ‘yes me’ girl to start on this road to living your dream? 


If you are on your way and/or living your dream who can you help reach for there dream?


Who can you share this with that will encourage you in your dream and stepping into action?


If you are really hurting in your circumstances who can you talk to and ask to help you threw this season?

Share with us, your thoughts, your dream...


Tiara in above picture we found at: http://www.sassyweddings.co.uk/

Doing My Time!

Lately I have caught myself saying “everyone has to do their time”. There are just some things in my life journey that I just flat out think are a season that I cannot change. These are the circumstances of life that we all go through and we start from a young age: The school years of a zillion assignments and late night homework or that crapy first job that pays small and keep you from your friend’s party. What about heart ache when wonderful he dumps you? Daggy, ugly furniture in your first home (think olive green with big white and yellow flowers) or that bomb of a car you must drive that breaks down every 5 minutes. My favourtie is trying to get the newborn baby to sleep in the middle of the night (L.A.C.K. O.F. S.L.E.E.P. Groooooaaaan!)

Now all these things are not necessarily a bad thing. They are in some instances what we call a rite of passage and we do just put it down to plain old 'that’s life'.

So anyway, the other night at my new lovely friends house I caught myself saying it again. It was due to the fact that I have just moved town and have no baby sitters for my girls = no date night out with my hubby:( sob. Out it came when my friends offered to babysit for me “thank you so much, yeah we have no babysitters but no complaints here, we’re new in town and everyone does their time.” Yikes! And then it hit me, what a silly thing I was saying. I was settling.

Truth Moment: Of course we all have things in life that we may not enjoy and seasons of pure circumstances but we don’t have to settle for it.

I learnt in that moment that I settle too quickly in my circumstances and palm it off as plain old 'that’s life'. I think it is time I acknowledging where I am at but then more importantly commit to take the necessary steps or goals to see it change.You see if I just keep settling for “doing my time” (how humble and noble of me) then I will never step out and see if I could change it or find a better way through it.

From now on I am banned from saying “everyone does there time” instead I am going to say yes to finding a better or new way through that season.

Thinking… …What right now are you settling for and what could you do to change it or make it better? Share.

My season of life!