Get Your Grrrrrr On.

Fradaz has gone all things animal!

Wearing Animal print is really in at the moment, no matter the season. It is really fun, a little daring especially if you have never worn it, and it can look gorgeously hot.

Animal Print is happening everywhere but there are a few rules to look chic in it, and not end up looking a bit tacky. 

So, check out these top tips on how to get your Grrrrrr on:

First - it's all in the basics: Build your look around basic outfit neutrals.

We‘re talking: black, white, grey, dark denim, or beige.  Never add color, (no arguments), color paired with animal print is a little toooo cute, hey there is cute but then there’s tooooo cute with no chic in sight :) .

Now - the fun bit – your look.

Simply add your animal print to the outfit in either one of these two ways.

Just a touch: The accessory!

Pick a couple of the following to jazz up that outfit with a taste of animal.

Animal print: Necklace, handbag, clutch bag, shoes, scarf, hair band, hats, stylish beanies, earrings, socks, bangles.

- Only add a maximum of 2 accessories as too many will look a little try hard over the top. Try these combos or just stick with one item: 

             A clutch with either: shoes, beanie, or necklace, or earrings.

             A hair band with either: a tote bag, clutch, or shoes.

             A scarf with: shoes, or socks.

             Bangles with either: shoes, scarf, hat, or earrings.

                                                     Experiment and see what you like...

- Don't pair items too close together - all in one area i.e. necklace and 

earrings = to much in one spot/area of the body, you just end up looking cluttery.

Or You can go,

Bold: The statement piece! 

One piece of clothing that totally sets your outfit on the growl.

Animal Print: Jacket, trench. skirt, floaty dress, shorts, stockings, blouse, knee high boots.

- With a statement look, Only, only, only do one piece of the outfit in animal print, say NO to many.

- Never pair animal print accessories with the statement piece as you will look totally overdone. Keep accessories to basic neutral colors i.e. black earrings, black clutch, black boots, black strap heals ect…

- Steer away from animal print long pants, we are just not going there :) .

- Avoid stretchy cheaper animal print fabrics as they look cheap and a bit tacky on, not what we are going for.

Now all that is left is to walk confidently, you can wear any look if you hold your head up and be You - Get your Grrrrr on!

Gossip Gal

Don’t you just hate it when you find out you have been the victim of some gossip?

We hate it because pretty much most of the time it’s untrue talk that taints our personhood and the view of others towards us.

Well, what if I told you that you were the worst gossiper about you?

I can prove it. How? 

Because we all have an inner thought life – the stuff we think and then tell ourselves about us, pretty much our gossip to us!

Just like gossip, some of our self talk can really harm us, lie to us and hurt us.

TRUTH MOMENT: What you say to You is going to build you up 

                                 or it will tear you down.

This world can throw a lot at us, and as women, juggling all our responsibilities, it is so easy to beat ourselves up about our failings and mistakes. It's easy to want to be that 'super women' yet end up feeling so inadequate. It is easy to hold ourselves to a standard that is so unreachable that we turn on ourself when we can't do it. 

We can also be so hard on ourself when someone else fail us and we can even blame ourselves for another persons mistake. 

These feelings fuel our self talk and our inner gossip girl is free to have a good old negative session with our heart leaving us feeling discouraged and deflated and believing we are a failure = torn down. 

You are so worth more, you are a valuable women, you are created to be beautiful and that means your inner self talk too.

So, when our feelings get the better of us and our self talk gets the baseball bat out here are four things you can do to send a clear message to that inner gossip gal to go elsewhere cause you're not listening:

1. Gut choice: You have to make the decision that you are going to encourage yourself with kind, beautiful, positive words no matter the circumstance. It is a choice to be kind to You, a choice to love you, a choice to accept you.

2. Don't live out of feelings: Our feelings can and do lie to us at times especially when we feel stupid, crazy, shamed and definitely not the super women we are trying so hard to be. You have to ignore feelings.  

Instead you need grace - allow grace for You. 

Grace gets you on your feet again, helps you accept responsibility if needed,  makes you smile at you, it is a hug that let's you know you are still valuable, loved and are enough.

3. God Gossip: Yep you heard me, align your self thoughts with God thoughts about you. Many of you know this, but is it really His voice you want to hear first or do you go to it last?

Make sure God is your foundation, guide and bottom line in how you feel about you. Make His voice the first point of call and now (the tricky bit) - let your heart accept it.

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians%201:4-6&version=MSG

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=psalm%20139&version=MSG

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20John%203:1&version=MSG

4. Time: Give yourself time to: grow, accept, change, get it right, and have another go. We need to embrace time and the journey that life is. Say nope to being caught up in the: instant great, the have to be right, and the have it all together, that our inner gossip would have us believe. 

You are beautiful, you rock, you are enough, be you.

Love,

Elizabeth. xx

Sneak Peak July

I just could not wait for the calendar to click over to July because this July is rocking!!!

So here is a sneak peek at what we are getting down and dazzling in:

It's going to be fun!!

Elizabeth xx

The pain of pregnancy loss.

Life certainly throws some curve balls at times and the worst ones can be those struggles that we never saw coming or never thought in a million years would be us. 

Below, Amanda shares with us her own story and heart about the real pain and struggle of miscarriage and the loss of hope when trying to start a family. She shares her own personal tips of encouragement for you if this is your story also.

These days I think we all know someone who is living this or has a friend who is living this. Whether it be the emotional pain of miscarriage, unable to fall pregnant, or loss of a precious baby, for yourself or a friend then this is a must read for you, giving simple ways we can have grace for ourselves or to love another.

Bleeding Hearts.

I am writing about something I have a deep passion for, something I think people need to hear and learn, let me tell you:

Well, I am 7 months pregnant with my fifth pregnancy, an exciting and nervous time, mainly because I don’t have those 4 other children you would naturally think I had. Over four years, I fell pregnant 4 times and then miscarried 4 times.
Every time it happened I went through anger, frustration and emptiness. This is an area of life that can be very uncertain and painful, for everyone. 

We all know it happens, but do we really know how to deal with it if that person is us? 
And do we know how to support someone when it’s them? 


Going through it myself, I often found I felt very alone, felt I received no support, I even thought it was because of a lack of ‘care factor’. 
What I have now learned is it wasn’t like that at all; I just needed to learn that I could ask for help.

From out of my experience, my life journey, I want to share some tips for both the people going through it and those wanting to support someone through it. This will, hopefully, give a better understanding of what is helpful for you, and for others. 

For those of us going through this:

1) We need to learn to speak out. We need to tell people we need them, we need help, we are hurting! God gave us family and friends so we don’t’ have to go through it alone – share how you are feeling, don’t bottle it up, even if it has been months or even years after the initial loss. 

2) Honour the memory. No matter how far along in the pregnancy, a life is a life. Whether it be talking about them or celebrating the moments we were meant to have, just celebrate their tiny life and existence. They may not be here with u; but we can still cherish those moments in a loving memory. 

3) Pray and cry! We are allowed to be angry and sad and call out to God, Why Me? So just sit and cry and grieve, it’s ok. Tell God exactly how you feel about it. He hears it all. In that stillness and pain I have really felt God talking to my heart. It may not take the pain away or the loss but it is reassurance that I am going to get through this in Him that He really does care. 

For those of you wanting to know how to support someone during these times:

1) Visit! Easy right? Not always when you are scared you don’t know what to say and it feels awkward. But, the truth is, there is nothing you can say to make them feel better and we don’t want you to try and ‘say anything’. We just want someone there caring, understanding and supporting. 

2) Bring up the baby! You don’t have to avoid the topic, like ‘if u bring it up’ it will remind them. Guess what... we don’t forget. There is nothing more sweet to a mummy than hearing the name of her angel baby, that they are remembered.

3) Pray. Offer to pray for them, or just send them a simple message saying I am thinking of you and praying for you, and not just in the week they are going through it but later too. This is friendship, it’s not silly, and it is comforting to a hurting heart.


In finishing, don't be scared of someone going through loss, don't be worried you will upset them or make them cry, just be there to support them, pray for them and love them.

For those of us going through it, its ok for us to be upset, we don't have to pretend we have it together all the time. We can admit we need support and love to get us through. Call out to people; because people do care about you. You may be plesently supprised by who has a desire to be there for you, and just didn't know how.


Amanda.x


Written by Amanda Goebel (C) 2010




We would love to hear from you, if you have endured this kind of pain and loss please share with us what is/was encouraging to you when faced with this pain.
While some of us have walked this path and totally understand and others of us can only imagine what incredible loss you must be facing, all our hearts at FradazMag truly pray, love on you and stand with you. 


Fradaz.xx


Fradaz Mag would like to give you the opportunity to share this article with a friend who may be facing this type of loss or a friend who is helping someone through it.
Simply paste this link, http://fradaz.blogspot.com/ , into an email and send it to them with a short note of encouragement, that you were thinking of them.


Please note that FradazMag does not replace professional Councillors or Medical Professionals and medical advice should be consulted in cases of loss and grief. 
This article is purely to encourage the heart.

I love makeup. I have always thought it was beautiful and so feminine. As a child I would sneak into my mother’s bathroom and look at all her makeup while longing for the day that I would be old enough to wear my own.

Today, I still love nothing more than painting my face with delicate colors  (and trying to hide those bags under my eyes as a mum with babies ;)). As women, it is a good thing to feel beautiful. I love the fact that we can glam ourselves up with a touch of visible color for a day or evening out and we can do it just ‘because’, even when we are at home. Why? Because this is something I do for me. 

When was the last time you did something for you and it made you feel beautiful, it made you feel special?

I think it is important as women that we take the time everyday to do something for us. Why not invest in and savor your beauty. We need to see our own beauty, and yes I know and you know that we all have flaws and icky bits that we wish we did not, but are we still beautiful? = yes! We are beautiful because we are created beauty by our God. We are real, we are all so diverse, and we are the only ones who can bring our own beauty forth.

So, a few minutes in front of the mirror applying your favorite lip gloss or blush really can lift your heart and send you into your day feeling just that bit more together, pretty and feeling great from the inside out. 


You are created as beauty so enhance it, invest in it and enjoy it.

Why not commit this week to spend an extra 5 or 10minuts with you and your beauty.

You could: 

- Just pause and indulge more in your daily beauty regime (rather than the hurried “mum I’m hungry” screaming kids at the door regime!)

- Try some new makeup colors.

- Invest in a new piece of makeup or even a new moisturizes for your skin.

- Talk to a makeup consultant at your local shopping centre or chemist for advice on the latest makeup trends.

- Just shut that bathroom door and the stress of life away and enjoy being you and enhancing your own beauty.

Be the beauty you already are.

Not sure what color makeup to use? Check out this link from Oprah.com. This article suggest colors for every hair and eye color combo you can think of. It’s a great place to start or to try a different color scheme you had not thought of. 


http://www.oprah.com/style/How-to-Choose-the-Right-Colors-for-You